Pre-session digest
Daniel & Wei · 9:00 AM today
Daniel & Wei
EFT · session 9 · together 6 years
What changed between sessions
Softening is starting. Protect it.
Both turned toward each other more this week. Wei named her withdrawal pattern; Daniel named the fear under his protest — the first time each has owned their move in the cycle.
Deepen the softening event — help Daniel share the fear directly while Wei stays present.
Homework
Daily bids for connection
Risk change
No change. Stable.
Reflections that came back
“The protest is loud because I'm scared she'll leave.”
“I want to turn toward Daniel instead of my phone.”
From the relational timeline
Session 8 · EFT
Tracked the cycle in real time. Daniel named the fear under the protest; Wei stayed present instead of withdrawing.
Repair attempt landed
Wei reached for Daniel's hand mid-conflict. First in-session repair that wasn't rejected.
Assigned: Daily bids check-in
Twogle Spark — notice and answer one bid for connection per day.
Wei reflected
“I noticed I turn toward my phone when I feel criticized. I want to turn toward Daniel instead.”